Understanding Joy

Joy Isn’t What a Lot of People Think It Is I’ve been mulling the idea of joy ever since reading the article The Rachel Hollis Drama Is Why I Don’t Trust Influencers by Bertilla Niveda on Medium. I’m not familiar with Rachel Hollis, but apparently her famous motto is “Choose Joy.” Ms. Niveda’s case against Ms. …

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The Problem with Self-Improvement

Sooner or Later You Must DO Something In the late 1970s, long before self-improvement became a thing, I was traveling in Europe after 2 years of college and struggling with what to do next. Sitting on the beach at the Black Sea, one of my companions told me the following: Say you want to sail …

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Normal Doesn’t Exist and Never Has

Seek Better Instead of Normal I realize it’s a bold statement to say that normal doesn’t exist. But stop and think about what normal really is. Is it average? That’s merely a percentage in the middle. By definition, at least two-thirds are on either end. Is it common? But what’s common for your community or …

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This Good Little Consumer Wants Out

The pandemic has revealed to me both the pitfalls of consumerism and my slavery to it Like so many others, my job fell victim to COVID-19 and the economic repercussions. Soon burned out on the news, I spent a lot of time reading. I like history, suspense, mysteries, fantasy, and books about how the brain …

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Priorities

Priorities are something we have to work at; you can’t just assume you have them in place. But often we ignore priorities as if the word itself is somehow dirty. I was brought up short this last week by an incident that reminded me of this reality. My husband decided that he wanted to buy …

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Let’s Get Back to Normal — Not!

We all deserve a better world. After a year of everything that could go wrong seeming to do so, I think everyone is yearning for some stability. People say, “I just want things to get back to normal.” But, if we think about it, that’s not what most of us want. (OK, if you managed …

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When the Holidays Aren’t Happy

This year the holidays promise to be particularly tough for a lot of people. But they are survivable. In addition to political upheaval, fires, and storms, 2020 brought us a pandemic, and we’re already seeing cases surge from Thanksgiving. The same supportive gatherings with friends and family that help stave off the blues this time …

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Old Dogs Can Learn New Tricks

But it might not be the “old dog” you expected. In this case, I’m the old dog. Like most people, I don’t like failure or admitting I was wrong, but there it was, and there I was. Here’s what happened. I shared a few weeks ago about Star, the new four-legged addition to our family. …

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Thankful for 2020? You’re Crazy!

“How can anyone be thankful for this wreck of a year?” you ask. My answer: it’s the tough times that we learn from the most. As I’ve begun preparing for the U.S. Thanksgiving holiday, it seems rather anachronous. All the families debating over get togethers, some going ahead, some postponing, others split. And that’s just …

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